The value of friendships

We happened to bump into one of Ophelia’s nursery pals at soft play the other day.  Prior to seeing him, she was apprehensive of this new, loud place and we were close to leaving. Once she saw him though, she was immediately in literal ROFL hysterics for the following 30 minutes. Im not sure i’ve ever seen her laugh like that so much. This is a boy I didn’t recognise, nor have I previously heard her say his name, so clearly not a regular play mate. However his familiarity and nature was exactly enough in that moment, his presence simply telling her; it’s alright. That basic reassurance already evident at mere 3 years old, remains for the rest of our lives.

I think friendships, no matter your age, can really impact your life and wellbeing both positively and negatively.  Trying to navigate those playgroup cliques and find a “fit” whilst finding you self isn’t an easy balance.  It takes the right combination of self awareness and insight to be able to put yourself out there to make those connections, something that doesn’t get any easier as you get older.  

As a parent, I already see these connections and explorations happening; influences in behaviour, interests and language that you never thought possible at 3 years old.  The fickle nature of girls, where often “you’re not my best friend anymore” is muttered to me (by daughter, not a friend!)-which I incidentally don’t ever remember someone saying to me! 

But equally, the clearness of those friends that are like siblings to you, that no matter what, you just get and tolerate each other, and despite your differences you never say a bad word about, unless it’s to their face, because you just know each other like that. Those are my favourites, and I think those are Ophelia’s favourites too. 

Wedding planning plans

Seeing as it’s under 8 months til we get married, I thought I best start writing a list of stuff to do, seeing as we haven’t even sent save the dates or invites….oops!!  


Personally, I would be happy if we didn’t send invites, I could get all hippy an’ be like “think of all the trees wasted” “they cost a lot for something that ends up in the bin”, which are both true, although I also think it’s a lot of unnecessary faff.

With that bombshell opinion out of the way, what other stupid ideas have got Callum already wondering what he’s got himself in for?! Although lets be honest, we’ve been together 9 (yeesh) years so he already knows what he’s dealing with! 

No real flowers:

Again, THINK OF ALL THE FLOWERS being wasted!!! Bees, world dying ya da ya da. Callum is properly against this one, but seriously, who fucking notices the flowers anyway? Plus, I’d much rather have knitted ones that could be..reused?! 

Fiesta theme:

Sangria, paella, ragey bright colours with streamers …what’s not to love?! Callum’s exact words were “We don’t want it to look like a kids party”….Erm.. don’t we?!!

No transport between venues:

It can’t just be me that thinks it’s ridiculous to organise transport for guests between ceremony and reception?!I mean, am I their parent for Godsake?!! Also, I can count on one finger the amount of weddings ive been to that have done that….and that’s because I wad a friggin’ bridesmaid. 

Did you do any of the above or decide not to? Tell me so I can make my case!!